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Go ahead, it's okay to be a "Player."

Kelley McElreath breast cancer depression player suicidal suicidesurvivor

This post is actually about players. If you know me, you know I can't stand "players." I just thought it was a catchy title. Anyway, last Friday, I had recently heard some bad news, I was having a rough day, I didn't feel well, I was in one of those "I hate myself" modes and I knew I was about to be interviewed by someone for the first time in a couple of hours. 

I tried pulling myself out of it and it just wasn't working for me. It was about 15 minutes before the call and I thought, there is no way I can help others if I can't put my own tools to use for myself. Sometimes, you just want to stay in it. For me personally, one of the reasons I want to is because I am feeling guilty about something or beating myself up for something stupid. You know, like if I torture myself like this, then I make-up for whatever I did. 

It's getting closer to my interview and I thought about sports teams. I thought about how players are people too. It doesn't matter if they've received some bad news, if they are sick, injured or having trouble at home, they have to show up and be on their game. So, I started thinking about how many other times I myself have been in this exact situation and was successful, life went on. 

I started thinking about the interview and how many people it will help by me coming forward and sharing my story. About this time it was time for my interview. The interview went awesome and it actually ended up with me being able to help someone. Not only was it awesome for me, but it turned out great for them. I was able to talk about comparison. So many times when I share my story with people they will immediately diminish what has happened to them because of how "HUGE" my story is. I was able to share how if I get cut and you get cut, we will both bleed and we will both hurt. You may feel more pain than I do or you may feel more. The fact is, YOUR story is YOUR story!! I felt SO refreshed when I was done with the interview. 

Why do I think that is? Because I spent an hour taking all my thoughts off of what was going on in my own life and putting it on someone else...others...helping others. It works for me every time. The key is to remembering it and practicing it when all your thoughts are on your own world and everything going on within it.

~Kelley...aka The Survivor Coach

“Sometimes life knocks you on your ass... get up, get up, get up!!! Happiness is not the absence of problems, it's the ability to deal with them.” 

Steve Maraboli

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